EP 20 - HOT GIRL SUMMER: WHAT BEING HOT & HORNY HAS TO DO WITH YOUR HEALTH
In this episode of Get Your Shit Together we chat about…
🧡 What a [literally] hot body says about health
🧡 Why a robust libido isn’t a “nice to have” - it’s a must!
🧡 Where things to awry with metabolic and hormone health
🧡 Practical tips for nourishing your metabolism and sex drive
Resources & Good Shit
Episodes
What We’re Consuming: Food
Diane is experimenting with a new chocolate ice cream base!
Egg salad that isn’t just mayonnaise salad! We share some tips for fancy-ing it up.
Adina made some delishhhh sourdough crackers with rosemary, Applewood smoked sea salt, and fresh cracked black pepper…mmm! She follows Bakerita’s gluten-free sourdough tips!
What We’re Consuming: Film, TV, Books
Adina is uncertain about the new Brooklyn 99, but VERY sure you should check out Dave season 2 (Hulu).
Diane finished another throwback “airport fiction” medical thriller, Shock by Robin Cook and moved on to Four Winds by Kristin Hannah.
Other Good Shit
Here is a basic Basal Body Thermometer you can use to temp!
Thinking of learning Fertility Awareness Method (FAM)? Daysy Fertility Tracker is the device Diane uses as a part of tracking her cycle. See her experience here and get $15 off your device. Adina loves her wearable Tempdrop device to track her fertility. Use this link for 10% off your device.
Single or just want to enjoy solo time in and out of the bedroom? Check out Playing Without a Partner by Dr. Megan Stubbs! Also be sure to follow her on IG at @sexologistmegan – come for the sex, relationship, and body image articles and stay for the gardening, food, and doggos!
For more sex and relationship advice for couples, also follow @vanessamarintherapy! Sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her partner Xander share tons of resources in their feed and also offer the aptly named “Finishing School” course if you want guidance in adding Vitamin O to your routine. Oh, and they have FOUR PUGS! A true “Grumble”.
Check out @erikasconfidenceco for more content and courses around building confidence in and out of the bedroom.
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Transcript
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Adina: 0:33
Hello. And welcome back to another episode of G Y S T. Oh yeah. This one is going to get hot and heavy. This one is a bit spicy of an episode. Diane. They're all They're all super spicy. They're all really informative and wonderful and hilarious.
Diane: 1:01
if we do say so ourselves. Yeah, for
Adina: 1:03
All right, Diane, tell us what's going on with you. Yeah.
Diane: 1:07
Over here. I just made a rich chocolate ice cream. Last night. I was worried the custard was too thick. I'm experimenting. If it all goes well, maybe we'll add that to the gyst mini course cookbook, but I melted down some chocolate. I used some Dutch process cocoa, some milk, unprocessed milk from our herd share. Lots of eggs. You know, it's basically like a sweet omelet over here and okay. Small world. One of my new clients I discovered is the one that's supplying my eggs. like, I saw that you pick up your milk from two sparrows farm, and I think she trades eggs with them or, yeah, I've been ending up with her. Good. Good eggs so that was so cool. Yeah. So super into that. As far as what I'm doing consuming on a media front, honestly, not much. I've been reading a lot. I mentioned medical thrillers and what I call airport fictions or working through a library book, sale pile. But what I consider airport fiction, John Grisham, those easy reads, the characters always have like a dumb names, but it's just a page Turner. You can kind of turn off your brain. I don't like any of that, anything that's too scary, but I read this book called shock by Robin cook. He's had like tons of medical thrillers from like the seventies to nineties, early two thousands. And this one, there's something nefarious going on at an infertility clinic. And some young college age women are donating their eggs, but Ooh, Is going down at this clinic. So that was juicy. And I've also been listening to a lot of books. I listened to pretty girls, which was a thriller, but there was kind of got a little too scary for me at some points, but kept me engaged. And I started four wins by Kristen hand. I know when I did a call for book recommendations, not long ago, a lot of people recommended her books. I've read a few of them. And so far that one's good, but I think it might be a little heavy. So we're going to. Some kind of light media, 30 rock to cleanse them.
Adina: 3:07
yes. That 30 rock color palette cleanser. We'll do. We just saw actually there's some new Brooklyn, nine, nine episodes out. So
Diane: 3:16
I thought that was
Adina: 3:17
no.
Diane: 3:18
like totally
Adina: 3:18
No, I think there's another season. So we'll have to see some of these late seasons are question marks for me. And I don't know if this is an unpopular opinion, but I hate Amy and I don't like Jake and Amy together. So the episodes that,
Diane: 3:37
Amy?
Adina: 3:38
um, uh, what's her name?
Diane: 3:40
I haven't watched the show.
Adina: 3:41
Oh, really? That's it's funny. forgot her name. Maybe I'll pop it in here later. Um, she actually, deep cut was a weird extra in like the early seasons of gossip girl. She played one of like Blair's minions.
Diane: 4:01
you once again, have this miraculous ability to recall the smallest details I'd never would have picked up
Adina: 4:07
Well, because I saw it because I watched gossip girl after watching nine, nine. I was like, oh my God, what's Amy doing here? That's bizarre. Um, okay. We are consuming some good stuff around here. Number one, we will be consuming that new season of nine nine, probably. And I'll let you know if it's good or not. We just finished Dave season two, which initially I had told you that it was wonderful, but a little gross. So you were like, I'm not going to do that. It was short-lived the gross Snus and it is so worth it for the season. I don't like to over-hype things because I feel bad for people if they see things after the hype, however, trying not to hype this up. But I think this season finale season two of Dave was one of the best episodes of television I've ever watched. So
Diane: 4:58
oh, that's yeah, that's
Adina: 5:00
yeah, not to put too much pressure on your experience of watching it, but man was that art. I like. Don't want to say much more because I don't want to ruin it, but it just hit all the notes for me. It was beautiful to look at it was, it took us on a journey. I just, it was wonderful. I mean, and obviously,
Diane: 5:22
out awards
Adina: 5:23
yeah, obviously the wrap was incredible and it was hilarious, but just, yeah.
Diane: 5:33
Dave
Adina: 5:33
10 out of 10 Dave season, two finale, maybe even more out of 10 because it took me by surprise. Loved it. Really loved it. Not to hype it up or anything, but there she is. Yeah. And on the food side of things, We are consuming. Okay. So you made a rich chocolate ice cream. I made a rich chocolate ice cream, but I don't really like chocolate ice cream. I like vanilla ice cream with chocolate stuff in it.
Diane: 6:01
Yeah. That's usually where I am too.
Adina: 6:03
Yeah. I just feel like chocolate ice cream kind of like sticks to your tongue in a weird way. Is that just me?
Diane: 6:10
yeah. My teeth are wearing sweat as after it's just very rich for sure. Little goes a long way.
Adina: 6:15
So what I do is I make the king Arthur gluten-free brownie.
Diane: 6:20
We're obsessed. Obsessed.
Adina: 6:23
under cook them slightly, then I don't let them cool off completely.
Diane: 6:29
Okay.
Adina: 6:30
chop them up.
Diane: 6:31
batter.
Adina: 6:31
Yes. And I write like the last few minutes of my ice cream maker cycle, I'll pop in those brownie chunks. And so it gets real brownies, Alla Modi, because it's like some of the brownie just kind of smushes and like melts into the ice cream.
Diane: 6:50
this is very sexual.
Adina: 6:52
it's really good though, that, so we ate that this weekend. It was delicious. And also I've mentioned her recipes before, but I love taking my sourdough starter and using some of bakeritablog, Rachel, from bakeritablog's recipes. So I made her sour dough, discard cracker recipe this weekend. And the base recipe for the crackers is really good. But then what I did was I. Coated it in butter. Nice little shmear butter on the top of the crackers. And I sprinkled on top Rosemary Potter. cracked black pepper and this Applewood smoked sea salt that I got from.
Diane: 7:36
get a picture of
Adina: 7:37
I know we gobbled them up over the weekend. Um, the Applewood smoked sea salt is actually from pick a malicious, the pickle store I mentioned last week.
Diane: 7:46
Okay. King Arthur and pickle store, please sponsor us. What else? Home goods.
Adina: 7:51
Home goods, king Arthur Pinkalicious, if you're listening, what else? What else? Costco. The Kirkland brand.
Diane: 8:01
I can not go my RCR students. No, I can't go through a live call without mentioning somewhere costs.
Adina: 8:07
Yeah. That's um, from Barb and star, you know, when she's like
Diane: 8:12
for Kirkland.
Adina: 8:13
model, I'm taking the Kirkland brand. Correct.
Diane: 8:19
they have a matching set. Someone in the west coast sent me a photo of her Kirkland set, and I was very jelly. I've not seen that in our store yet.
Adina: 8:28
You got to get your hands on that. All right. Well, that's it. We're eating gooey brownie ice cream or eating sourdough crackers. And we are watching Dave.
Diane: 8:39
Yeah. Lots of eggs. By the way I did make an egg salad, Adina made an egg salad so I made an egg salad, but I added cornerstones and capers. Cause I don't like a wet Mayo oily salad. And I don't like wet egg salad, tuna salad, when you add pickles to it and then you go to leftovers, it's just runny. So cornichons, don't give up much water. It was so good. And I added a ton of herbs. That was my hot tip for the week is use your fresh herbs and use them in anything.
Adina: 9:06
Anything and everything all of the time. Okay. So I made that egg salad and I remember I had been talking about it all weekend. And then when Dani came home from work on Monday, I was like, did you see the egg salad on my stories? How good did it look? And he was like, it looked gross because egg salad always looks gross. And that's the problem is like egg salad when it's made. Right. It's so good. just looks disgusting. No one's ever going to look at an egg salad and be like, Hmm, I need that X.
Diane: 9:37
I do think that with a good crusty bread and some fresh herbs, and cracked fresh pepper, pepper. It does look a little better.
Adina: 9:46
All about the pepper on top of that.
Diane: 9:49
Yes. Oh, wow.
Adina: 9:52
Wow. We'll talk about egg salad, which is very unsexy to lead us in to the sexiest topic there ever was on
Diane: 10:02
hot and sexy. Yeah, no, truly it is. We are. I mean, you already know we hit that explicit warning, but this is something that we need to talk about and it is absent from sex ed. Funny, not funny that in public school, public education, at least that I experienced sex. Ed, didn't really talk about this, how to be in touch with your body. Libido and it's important because it, isn't just this nice to have, it is a need to have and a marker of our health. So we're going to talk about that in this episode, we're going to talk about why. It's important to be hot and horny, literally hot and horny as a sign of a robust health, healthy hormones and metabolism. We're going to get into that. We'll have some practical tips for you at the end. We're also, we can't talk about this episode without getting into some mindset stuff too. So that's, what's coming pun intended ahead. In this episode,
Adina: 10:56
This episode will be silly because we can't help ourselves. And we're 12 year old boys. However, it will also be really serious because you need to know this information and we don't get told it. And like Diane said, it really is a marker of our health and we're not looking at it in that way. And we need to be, we need to reframe that because we need to take women's libidos seriously, and we need to take our body temperature seriously. Like, let us help you get hot and horny. Let's go. Whenever you talk about sex ed, I can't help, but think of the parks and rec episode where,
Diane: 11:31
going to say mean girls.
Adina: 11:33
I mean that for sure you will get chlamydia and die. So for sure that, but also the parks and rec episode where Leslie is trying to. Teach people how to have safe sex. And the whole town of Pawnee is like this isn't we have an abstinence only policy, you know, those like aggressive Christians.
Diane: 11:52
just avoid, avoid, avoid. It works. Not.
Adina: 11:56
Yeah. So when she's like the funniest part is when they're trying to practice fielding the sex ed questions from the older adults, and then Andy starts doing all those impressions of like, when I sit on the toilet, my balls hit the water.
Diane: 12:15
Can you go back through parks? We'll link to that clip in the show notes. If you need a little laugh, we all do. Lighten the mood. Uh, so why do we need to talk about this again? We were saying that this isn't talked about when we are in adolescents, it's like that conversation that our parents just wanted to avoid, and if they did have it, the message largely, and our side was just avoid, avoid. Don't do it. Don't think about it. Maybe there are some shame stories wrapped up in that narrative as well, but low sex drive too. We see this so much in our practice. It's just. Normalized, especially for our more mature clients. So those women who are approaching a, the season of life where they're no longer cycling anymore and they just might express, oh, I don't remember the last time I had sex, like, uh, just don't even really think about it. And so we're going to talk about why it's a problem that that's normalized. And some women might not even know what it feels like to have a healthy, robust sex drive. So some reasons that might be happening.
Adina: 13:21
Yeah. I mean, this is super common again, if we said, if you grew up in a society where there was guilt and shame around sexuality, around sexual activity. And it gets really complicated. This conversation. It really does. If you grew up in a society like that, and then you say started hormonal birth control, and that may have altered things like you may never really have been in touch with your sexuality, with your true sex drive, because if you start hormonal birth control, when you're 15 years old for your acne, like those are really important years where your sex drive is developing and where you're understanding. What that interaction is in your body and how that indicates your health. But when we just shut it down, it doesn't give us this opportunity to develop it. And then maybe you come off hormonal birth control later on, and you're just so out of touch with what a healthy sex drive looks and feels like.
Diane: 14:18
right. What is truly normal? So what does not, we, we think about, we often say this and context of other symptoms is there are a lot of things that are normalized, but they are not biologically normal. And having a low sex drive is one of those things. We want to see a robust sex. Drive it common when that I know. Heard from our clients in both of our programs or one-on-one is that they notice that their libido increases, whether that's improving their natural cycle or they're someone who is on hormonal birth control for a couple of years, five years, 10 years I've even had clients who were on it for 15 to 20 years without a break, some of them. And so they're seeing changes, especially if they're still in their cycling year. In their libido and things going on down there, they're like, whoa, what is going on?
Adina: 15:07
Yeah.
Diane: 15:08
Are these fluctuations? So, and dig into that, we're also going to talk about the tools that we have at our fingertips to understand our health and our cycle. And, um, some things that you can take away practically from this episode.
Adina: 15:21
Yeah. So what we want to bring your attention to is we have this incredible tool at our fingertips. Our body temperature to understand so much about our health. And we are never taught that the only time we're told to take our temperature is when we are faced with illness. Like if
Diane: 15:38
do I have a fever?
Adina: 15:38
write, trying to figure out if you have a fever, but if we're using that as a marker for figuring out when we're sick, why aren't we using it as a baseline marker of our health as well? It's really, it might be something that you do. If you are familiar with tracking your cycle right because you know that you take your temperature to figure out. When you were in your fertile window, but if no one has truly explained to you physiologically why that helps us understand when we're fertile, we can really break this down and use it as such a tool to understand so much about our health, which we'll get into a little later on. But I remember at the very beginning of COVID, when people were starting to take their temperatures more regularly, you know, establishments were requiring temperature for entrance and things like that. Made me laugh because especially, I know this is like a man thing. Like if you're a, if you're a mom, for example, you don't get sick days, right? Like if you had a fever, you're still going to be taking care of your children. But I feel like all the men I know in my life, if they had a fever, they would not be walking around. They would be bedridden. Like we don't need to take a man's temperature to know if he has a fever. If he's in bed, he has a fever, you know,
Diane: 16:54
Yeah, they can't function. Yes.
Adina: 16:56
Anyway,
Diane: 16:58
At the beginning of COVID
Adina: 16:59
beginning of COVID, when all establishments were taking temperatures or you had to take your temperature before you went to work, a friend mentioned to me that she was taking her temperature before going to work. And she said, it's so weird. Like growing up, I feel like everyone always said 98.6 was a normal temperature, but mine's so much lower than that. And my friend who's a doctor was there and said, yeah, that 98.6 thing is a total myth. Like nobody's temperature is 98.6 anymore.
Diane: 17:26
It's this
Adina: 17:27
Yeah. And I was sitting there kind of biting my tongue and thinking to myself like that's because everyone's metabolism is in the toilet. Like this is a marker of our health and we want those hot temperatures. We want that robust metabolism. And you know, this is like a deeper cut, but part of the reason that so many people are getting so sick with these respiratory viruses is because of our suppressed metabolisms. Like we really need to focus on our metabolic health to better fight infection, to better fight disease. And we can see the rise of chronic illness in a major way. We can see the rise in infection and the way that we are being debilitated from these respiratory viruses. Like we really do need to take a step back and focus on our metabolic health.
Diane: 18:19
A healthy, hot functioning metabolism is a resilient body. And this is one of the many reasons we don't shut up about metabolism and strength training because all of these things are in service of increasing that metabolic function hour.
Adina: 18:34
Yeah, I thousand percent agree. And this is why you'll hear us say, and we'll say it in this episode, we'll say it in every episode, like you don't need. A specific nitty gritty lab test to tell you what's wrong with you. Like, yes, you are a unique little snowflake and you're amazing. And everything unique about you is amazing. However, when it comes to your health, I don't necessarily care about the specifics. Chronic condition that you were diagnosed with, or the specific hormone imbalance that your doctor told you you had at the end of the day, we need to focus on heating up that body and getting that metabolism firing for us to find true health.
Diane: 19:14
Yeah, that's a common denominator that we're going to have to work on. No matter your situation. if that baseline isn't met or supported. This is all just the fine tuning, the details that we cannot chase down. Being hot and horny is a sign of health. We literally, we want you to literally be hot. So I know our title of our episode is like hot girl summer. Like, so catchy love Megan, thee stallion, but we literally want you to be hot because a warm hot body is a sign of healthy hormones and active metabolism.
Adina: 19:48
Yeah.
Diane: 19:50
I know we've talked about this on past episodes, but let's do a little refresher here. What is your metabolism? This is how every cell in your body takes the food that you eat and turns it into energy. We've talked about that by a biology, like middle-school biology take away. Like the one thing that we retain is like that mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell like that and how to play hot cross buns on the recorder from music class. So. The mitochondria powerhouse of the cell. So how can we turn up that energy support that production in order to have that robust, hot body resilient body?
Adina: 20:25
Yeah, I put this gif into every one of my programs, but Andy Dwyer finding out. The food you eat turns into energy and he's got starts punching the air and he goes, boom, that's spaghetti. Boom. That's a cookie.
Diane: 20:41
Andy has given us so many good sound bites. I remember that episode.
Adina: 20:44
Yeah. So anyway.
Diane: 20:45
Thank you. Spaghetti.
Adina: 20:46
Energy that food turns into energy and energy is quite literally heat, right? So when you, that is heat in the body is energy in the body. So when your metabolism is robust, you are hot, your body temperature increases. So 98.6, isn't this. Unicorn that is just in medical textbooks and nobody reaches anymore. I mean, for a lot of us, it's not the case because a lot of us are in the 96 is because our metabolism is so suppressed and our thyroid is so suppressed. So again, your thyroid runs the show when it comes to your metabolism. If you were told by your doctor, like you went in thinking you had some thyroid stuff going on because your hair was falling out or you were exhausted, or maybe your fingers were really cold. Your toes were really cold and they ran your labs. Right? We told you they ran just one little marker and they probably looked at your TSH and they said, oh, your labs look normal. You're fine. But you still feel like shit. I would encourage you to start taking your temperatures, because if you are told your labs look normal, and like we said, we're just looking at TSH, which I don't even consider a thyroid hormone. I consider it a brain hormone because it's your brain telling.
Diane: 22:01
stimulating
Adina: 22:02
Yes. So. When we just look at that marker. We're not looking at so many other pieces of this puzzle, but if you start taking your temperatures, now we have empowered you with this tool to start figuring out like, where is your thyroid at right now? If your temperatures are in the 96, is that is telling us that your thyroid is suppressed. Your metabolism is suppressed and we need to get you heating up. We need to get that food actually converting into energy. We need to get. Every single cell on the cellular level, working better to do what it needs to do and to produce that heat in the body.
Diane: 22:40
and, you know, understanding that it's just so clear. It makes so much sense to me why we would track this. And yet I have heard from doctors and heard people, clients tell me that their doctors say, oh, what you eat doesn't really affect it. Doesn't affect your cycle. I've even had the experience of going to a GYN and telling her, oh, I feel so much. After changing my diet and like, oh, you think that made a difference? Huh? And it was this very condescending tone. I know that not everyone experiences that, but I do hear this message from clients often that, oh, they told me that I know making food and life food changes doesn't really affect this. How could it not the food that you are putting in your body is turning into energy. That you use, that is the fuel that you use. And so Adina was mentioning some labs that might be, that might run. And so some people will hear this and think, okay, I need to ask for more comprehensive labs, we're going to come back to this later in this episode, maybe for some people, but that is only in my opinion and in my practice. Only after or alongside, we've done these other basics. And if you are taking your temperature, that is data that you can collect in 30 to 60 seconds every day, or even different parts throughout the day. Instead of just getting this one snapshot in time of this one, marker that is not giving you a very comprehensive look at what's going on in your body. So it's so accessible truly to do that. That's.
Adina: 24:01
Like when a practitioner runs a lab test and say they run blood tests on you at one moment in time on that one Monday morning that you went in, we're getting, we're like peeking through the window, you know, like, why not do something day in and day out? Multiple times throughout the day, and like actually open the front door, walk into the house, walk around, look inside. Like it's giving us so much more information about what is going on in there besides for just like peeking through the window at one little marker. So your temps can tell you a ton of things. I know everyone is like, what's the perfect diet for me. There's so much marketing like that. You can take your temperatures after eating a meal and see. Is this meal warming me up. If your temperatures plummet after a meal, that might be a really good indication that that meal is not doing what it's supposed to do. It's not calming your stress hormones. It's not converting effectively into that heat and energy in the body. And again, this is a little high level for this episode, but we don't want to look at our temperatures in isolation. Like there are a lot of other things that would go along with that. This is something that we dive a little bit deeper into inside of our programs. Um, I do this inside, so strong foundations. I know Diane does this inside root cause reset as well. When women have specific questions about what's going on with their temperatures. It's like, we don't want to give you, like, here's the perfect temperature that you have to achieve in this phase of your cycle.
Diane: 25:29
but things are going to be in flux, just like your healing is linear. Right. And I mean, we're talking about metabolism more in this episode, but we can talk about body temps and metabolism with also taught without also talking about hormone health. So sometimes people are hearing about taking temps in the context of just fertility awareness method. It's amazing. But even that your, your temperatures are going to fluctuate throughout your cycle throughout the day. So I've had, I'm sure you've experienced this too with your clients. Like, okay, what temperature am I aiming for?
Adina: 25:59
Yeah.
Diane: 26:00
I'm hesitant, of course, 98, like high 98, mid 98. That's going to be awesome. Um, but
Adina: 26:05
Well, I would clarify also for the second half of your cycle, I
Diane: 26:08
yes, for the second half of your cycle and they beginning, it could be a little bit lower. Um, but. You're not, I don't want you to hear this and think I need to hit that. And if I don't, then I am not successful. There are other markers of health that we've talked about on our show, in our programs. So keep that context in
Adina: 26:26
Yeah. And I think when it comes to temperature too, It's not just that, like, I need to see this perfect number in the first half of your cycle and then this perfect increase and then the perfect number in your second, in the second half of your cycle, it's more like, I want you to use this as a tool and we want to see consistency, right? Like, If you're seeing day one of your cycle is through the roof and day two of your cycle is in the trash and day three of your, you know, that's going to be an indication that like stress hormones are playing a role and maybe your food is not serving you very well. Maybe your workouts are not serving you very well. Maybe you're not recovering very well. Like there. I would have if that was happening. So we do want to see consistency, right? Consistency is going to tell us that like, there is consistency in your body. That's a good thing. And then we also want to see trending up right throughout this healing process. It might be within three months inside of something like strong foundations or root cause reset. Like some women really see an increase. In temperatures throughout those three months, but it might be beyond for some of us healing, our thyroid hearing, healing, our metabolism, it takes time. And so committing to that,
Diane: 27:38
it's downstream. We've talked about that. Or if you've done a, one of our intake forms or seeing the graphs that I post on Instagram, you'll notice that sex hormones are on the right side downstream. We cannot work on your hormone, health, your metabolism without first addressing blood sugar, thyroid health, your stress. Yes. I have a client who recently she's new to this to temping and she's like, it looked like a polygraphed. It was all over the place. And I remind them. Like a win right now is that you are introducing this new habit. I mean, if we have maybe historically had an IUD or taken a pill every night that took some time to get familiar with. And I personally, when I switched to temping was like, oh, this is another thing, but okay. I remember to take a hormonal birth control pill for years. This takes just a little bit more time, or you can do this throughout the day. If you're. Checking after a meal and so on, but it's just a new habit to layer in. So remember to look at other things, um, and celebrate small successes elsewhere.
Adina: 28:40
And if you really don't do well with that temping in the morning thing, maybe you are breastfeeding. Maybe you're up in the middle of the night, things like that. I really love temp drop. It's a product that I've used. And that I recommend to a lot of my clients who have those less consistent nights. Maybe you work night shifts, uh, things like that. And it's just like a little band that you slip on your arm and you sleep with it. And it takes like a. Collective temperature measure throughout the night. There's an algorithm that it uses. And so that can be a good way to track your temperature without having to take your temperature every morning. But I will just caveat by saying that your oral temperature, the temperature that you take through your mouth with an oral basal body thermometer. Might vary a little bit from in our pit temperature that you take externally like that. So it still is really good for seeing, like we said, those trends and that consistency and are things increasing. Are we getting that rise for the second half of the cycle? Like it's great for fertility awareness method, but I always kind of want to check in every so often with an oral temperature, just to see where we're at.
Diane: 29:45
I use femometer for that. So for tracking my cycle and for natural birth control sets beyond the scope of we're covering here in this episode, really, but Adina likes temp drop I use Daisy fertility tracker, but I track other signs of fertility as well for that to be a successful method for me. But as far as a thermometer that you would use to do what we're talking about here, something like femometer an actual basal body temp, or a thermometer so that usually we'll have, I think, to the tenth degree. So it's a little bit more accurate and a little more sensitive than a lot that you might find at the grocery store. We can link an option for you in the show
Adina: 30:20
They're like $10, like grab one on Amazon, grab one at like your pharmacy. Um, it's really not a big investment. Uh, something like Daisy or temp drop would be a bigger investment, but again, you're paying for
Diane: 30:30
That's only one time too. Yeah. And that's with Daisy anyway. Like you wouldn't use that throughout the day. Check your temp.
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Adina: 32:45
Yeah. So if you are a person who tracks your cycle and you know, that that increase in body temperature indicates that you obviated, but no one ever really explained to you why this is really important to kind of just close the loop on this whole picture of what your temperature represents inside of your body. The reason that your temperature increases after ovulation is because progesterone starts to rise in a, love it in a healthy cycle with a strong ovulation, with this really fertile body where we can carry a pregnancy. It means we have adequate progesterone in the second half of our cycle, and projesterone is a very metabolically active hormone. It is a very pro thyroid hormone. So. in progesterone is going to heat you up. We're telling you about how that warm body, that hot body represents this active and robust metabolism. So that is going to increase even more in that second half of your cycle. And just a side note here. This is why you might be ravenous in that second half of your cycle. If you're a person who never really paid attention to that, and you're like, oh my God, I'm insatiable. Like,
Diane: 34:04
burn and churn and the energy. Yes.
Adina: 34:07
Yeah, there is this big increase in energy. And again, if your body was preparing for a pregnancy, a lot would be going down, you need a lot of nutrition to start building that bay. And so it really just makes a lot of sense when we can really understand why the why behind our physiology. It all just makes so much sense.
Diane: 34:28
Yeah, we talk about this a little bit more. If you haven't listened to it yet, go back and check out our period MythBusters. Episode where we talk about the four phases of the cycle. So here, we're just talking about mostly the rise that latter half of the cycle. Yeah. Luteal phase. If you are someone who's working on hormone imbalances or making your periods easier, more regular, you might notice a lot of fluctuations in your temperatures. And so. Don't put the pressure on yourself to hit that perfect post ovulatory temp, but we do want to see over time a trend and upwards trend in that morning, BBT
Adina: 35:07
Let's warm you up. So. If you're a person who like was suspicious that you had thyroid issues, or maybe you weren't, maybe you never even made that connection, but your hands are always freezing or your toes are always
Diane: 35:20
Even in the summer time.
Adina: 35:22
or your nose is always freezing or you're just really intolerant to temperature extremes. That can really clue you in and using something like your body temperature to kind of gather some more data points. We can really start to see like, oh, my body temperature is actually 96 degrees. Like, this is why my fingers and toes are so cold. And again, your body's always going to prioritize, keeping your vital organs, warm and so it's going to down-regulate blood flow. In the fingers, toes, nose, the extremities to keep those vital organs warm. So if we can get that whole body warming up, we're going to be sending some more blood to those fingers and toes as well.
Diane: 36:07
Right. And I've had conversations with friends or just heard women talk even outside of a consult like, oh, I'm always cold. My hands and feet are always cold. Even through the summertime. I'm like, let's check on what that thyroid is doing. Very
Adina: 36:23
we got to know.
Diane: 36:24
Yeah, switching gears just, just a little bit, we talked about why it's so important to be literally hot in the summer in the fall winter, but why let's talk now about why it's also important to be hot and horny. And why having a robust libido is healthy for you. So you might notice if you have a natural cycle you're not on hormonal birth, control that on halfway through your cycle. You might want to get glam. You might be feeling yourself. Metaphorically, literally that's fine too. Or if you're a partnered, not partnered, you're like, Hey, I want to get some, and there's a reason for that. Yes. I to say ready to rumble. I mean, sure.
Adina: 37:11
no. Like when, when you're approaching ovulation, like there's those mornings, you wake up, you look in the mirror and you're like, dang girl, what happened overnight?
Diane: 37:20
I'm feeling myself. I mean, I'm feeling myself. Month long, I guess. Well, like halfway through I'm like, I want to dress up. I want to get out. I want to also, I mean, outside of a sexual sense or libido, like I might feel more inclined to make more connections and to speak more on story. Um, so there are some people will talk about cycles syncing not only your workouts, but your work and the way that you show up throughout your cycle but anyway, I digress, but like, yeah, halfway through, you might notice. Hmm. Want some vitamin D and not the sunshine.
Adina: 37:57
The ludicrous kind and
Diane: 38:01
There's a reason that, so whether your goal is to try to conceive or you're trying to avoid your beautiful body is always trying to be fertile and to get ready for a baby. So. Remember, we've talked about how our cycle is a downstream marker for overall health. So a robust libido, a warm body, two of those things can clue us. Those two things can clue us into how healthy your fertility is.
Adina: 38:27
Yeah. So if hearing us talk like this, you were like, I have never felt that way before that is a sign that something is going on under the hood. Right. And that, along with something like your body temperature can give us way more information about what's going on with your metabolism libido. Just like your healthy cycle is a marker of metabolic health.
Diane: 38:49
yeah, that lizard brain is like, we need to reproduce. So again, like personally, that is not my goal with me and my partner, but my body is always trying to have a healthy cycle so let's think about this from an evolutionary standpoint. And actually I'm just listening to this book called four wins by Kristin Hannah, where there is someone who is pregnant and they're going through a lot. It's in like the great depression, I believe. But anyway, And what ruined it for you? Um, let's think about this from an evolutionary standpoint. If there's a lot of famine going on, there aren't many resources, there's chronic stress. So that could be from not having enough food, having a very chronically stressful environment, mental, emotional stress. Your body's. Okay. We're going to have to prioritize resources for other things, fight or flight. It is not the time to ovulate and to have a healthy pregnancy. So think about that and how that might've looked for our ancestors, but then translate that to modern day in the stressors of modern life. If we have chronically under slept over, over exercise, we have really unfulfilling relationships are a lot of mental, emotional stress. All of those things add to
Adina: 39:59
Or we're not eating
Diane: 40:00
on not eating it.
Adina: 40:01
you're telling your body there's a
Diane: 40:02
Yes. yes. Waiting until noon. And to have your first meal after you've already had coffee and you've already worked out those things that diet culture in our world are like, yeah, go get it. Get into that inbox. Get into those meetings that hit class. Doing great.
Adina: 40:19
That fasted cardio
Diane: 40:20
Yes. And meanwhile, your body is like help. I am hungry. It is not the time. Clearly she's got other priorities, right? And I'm making a joke about this too. And I don't want to make light of fertility and struggles there, but you know, on our episodes that we talk about how important it is to nourish yourself through food, through movement, through nourishing relationships, all of that. So it's tough.
Adina: 40:46
Yeah, I was just trying to take Diane really seriously. But for those of you listening at home, she does have a unicorn filter on in our zoom room.
Diane: 40:53
I'm horny. I'm horny. I guess I've got a unicorn horn. Oh, maybe I should put a picture in her show in the show notes. So they know what you're looking at.
Adina: 41:04
Probably,
Diane: 41:04
a rainbow Homan.
Adina: 41:06
we are not trying to make light of this. Um, it's just sometimes really hard to take her seriously. However, back to it, everybody shake it off. yeah. So if we think about this, just, this is how it's built into our design, that if things are really stressful and it's a super bad time to put mom under the kind of stress that our body goes through to birth a baby, and then bring a baby into a world where it might not have available nutrients, because if mom is underfed, that breast milk might not be what baby needs. And so. We need to think about how this was built in that function. Getting shut down is a survival mechanism. So if you are in survival mode all the time, and you are just scrambling from one task to the next, and you feel like you're drowning in your life. This is not a good time to reproduce. And so your body will shut down. First of all, that ovulation but also that libido, that craving for sex, your body does not want you craving sex. That's all a libido is your body does not want you craving sex. If it is a super bad time to have a baby.
Diane: 42:21
Yeah. And we've talked about this from a physiological standpoint too, but we can't talk about libido without also talking about relationships, how you feel about your partner. If you are partnered up, do you like your partner? I remember I was listening to a, um, Was it a GYN. So a woman fertility specialist talking about like, okay, before libido, how are you happy in relation? Do you want to have sex with your partner? Are you in a fight? Like other nourishment has to happen with that relationship before you can also crave sex too, which is important to think about. So,
Adina: 42:55
And this is outside of the scope of our work, and this is outside of the scope of this conversation, but certainly if there is sexual trauma, then that's another really good reason why your libido might not be adequate. So we can talk till the cows come home about metabolism, about hormone balance, right. If there is sexual trauma that you have never worked through, that is going to be playing a really big role as well. And again, we're always talking about your overall health and your mental health and working through your traumas is a really big part of that as well. So just because it is outside of the scope of this conversation does not mean that it is not an extremely important piece of your overall health.
Diane: 43:33
Yes. Yeah. And we highly recommend working with a trusted counselor. If you have dealt with sexual trauma or physical abuse or all those end, we send our hearts out to you. Just a reminder from our period myth-busting episode, if you are on hormonal birth control. So you do not have you do not ovulate because that's the whole point of hormonal birth control. Then you might not experience these fluctuations. There are certainly women who don't experience effects on their libido when they are on the pill, but this is a. Symptom that I hear from so many of my clients that they just don't have a libido when they've been on hormonal birth control for months, for years. Right. So you might not notice those fluctuations both with your libido, with your cervical fluid, all these other things. Because that function of ovulation is not happening.
Adina: 44:23
Yeah. And doesn't it make so much sense, right? Like we all complained about, or we didn't even know to complain when we were on the pill that we had no libido. But if you think about what we're explaining about how your body works, it just makes so much sense. Like if there is a thing that you're taking, that's designed to shut down the communication between your brain and your ovaries, so that you don't ovulate and you can't get pregnant. It makes a whole lot of sense that you wouldn't be craving sex on that pill.
Diane: 44:48
Yes. And let's also talk about libido in the context of, um, Let's also talk about libido for those who are single, not partnered, right. Orgasms and libido are still important for you too. So I guess we've talked about libido, but sex drive, libido, orgasms, and just let's talk about orgasms in general, the benefits of them lowering stress, improving your mood, helping you relax can also offer pain relief to people from cramps, headaches, migraines, and increase blood flow to the pelvis and help you sleep. So there's so many benefits and you can see this as a self care option, all right. That was a little, little segue. We will go a little bit deeper in our vitamin O during our practical tips here in a second. After Doug's done with some water, he's getting thirsty, listening to us, I guess. Oh, moving on.
Adina: 45:46
Moving on. Happens to us that we get to a place where we are no longer hot and horny.
Diane: 45:55
What
Adina: 45:56
What happens, where our body cools off, where we lose our sex drive. You know, now we have, we have explained to you what these things have to do with your metabolic health, with your overall health. Why? Why are so many of us struggling with this? Why did my friend who's a doctor think it was totally normal that people's body temperatures are nowhere near 98.6 anymore.
Diane: 46:17
We just talked about the hormonal birth control pill or hormonal IUD, if that's your flavor. But we also have to think about other long-term medications. So antidepressants, stamping?
Adina: 46:30
So not a big deal. That's from crazy. Ex-girlfriend
Diane: 46:34
So Antidepressants Sri's those things. We, again, are not telling you to stop medications, especially those directed by our doctor. There's no shame in using these. These can be a very helpful tool for some people, but what we want to talk about is how a long-term use of a medication, especially one who's side effects can be dampening. Libido can affect you. So let's talk about hormonal birth control specifically for a second. Yeah. Again, coming back to the pill or hormonal IUD. So high estrogen, whether that is from hormonal birth control, having estrogen dominance, if you have a natural cycle or low progesterone, Relative to estrogen dominance, we're living in an estrogenic environment that will lead to more sex hormone binding globulin. Oh my gosh. That's a mouthful or S H B G for short, which is a protein that will also bind to testosterone. And when that happens, especially if you're on hormonal birth control, where testosterone is already low, your libido is gonna tank. And if you have been on hormonal birth control for long periods of time, that synthetic estrogen can also mean long-term side effects on libido as well for so for some women. So that is another reason why I stress this to clients who are considering coming off of the pill or their IUD is that we need to replete nutrients and really focus on nourishment after they decide to stop using hormonal birth.
Adina: 48:05
Yeah, absolutely. It needs to be a bigger conversation because so many women are on the pill. And so many women don't have this information. It's not just what the pill is doing in that moment. It really does shift a lot of things with our metabolic health, with our nutrient status, our mineral status, just the way our body functions. We need to get that communication back up and running. And so if you find that you come off the pill and your libido does not return, there's a lot of things we need to examine. If you come off the pill and your temperatures don't increase, we need to start approaching this with a food and lifestyle approach that is going to warm that body up. And again, we'll, we'll get into some practical tips a little bit later on, but the other big thing that I think is impacting our temps are libido is the diet and fitness culture. Like so many of us are just chronically under eating and under nourishing, even if we're overeating and we're just eating nutrient poor foods.
Diane: 49:12
Good clarification.
Adina: 49:13
Yeah, but again, so many of us are under eating. Like we think we're bingeing, we're gorging, just because of the way that this has been presented to us. But I know for my clients, I'm sure you have this with your clients. When you start to show them like how much food they should actually be eating in a day,
Diane: 49:31
Okay. Cool. That's a lot.
Adina: 49:34
Yes. Shocked by how full their plates are. And again, like so many of us are overexercising and. Under recovering. So even if it doesn't seem like a ton of exercise, if you're like, what? I just take one spin class a
Diane: 49:50
what I just lift weights every day, six days in a row. If you're thinking well,
Adina: 49:55
that is, that is overexercising. But even if you're the kind of person who's just taking one spin class a week, maybe even one spin class a month, if you are not recovering from that stress, it can still plummet your temperatures. Your libido. And again, that is your metabolism slowing down. So stress is not necessarily the problem. Like the stress of exercise is a good thing. It's important. It makes us better. It just needs to be an appropriate amount of
Diane: 50:25
that Goldie locks them out.
Adina: 50:27
The Goldilocks amount and you need to be recovering from it properly. So you need to be fueling your recovery with proper nourishment. You need to be resting, sleeping, hydrating minerals, the whole deal. It's really important that we recover. It's. We need to be paying more attention to our recovery and not just our fitness.
Diane: 50:50
we can do episodes on what that looks like, both preparing for workouts and recovering. But earlier in our episode, we were talking about that lizard brain, right? If you are. Waking up at 5:00 AM to get to that bootcamp class before you've had anything to eat or really to drink. And then you're going into your stressful job, your meetings right after your, your brain is like, oh, oh, we are, we are at war. We are running from a predator slash that coach. That's like, no pain no gain go harder. And you're like, I can't. Yes, you can't. It's because you are running on empty.
Adina: 51:26
Yeah. And this kind of gets into the mental, emotional side of things. And I know this can be triggering because I have said this before, and it has triggered people, but if you are a person who has never examined, if you're like type a, and you've never examined. Why you are so addicted to those spin classes with those coaches that are yelling at you or those CrossFit classes that are putting you on the ground and making you into a sweat angel and just exhausting you, we need to talk about your addiction too. Stress your addiction to adrenaline and your addiction to punishment. Why are you trying to punish yourself? I know this is going to upset you if you're like, no, I love my bootcamp. It's my stress
Diane: 52:11
Yeah, that's a really triggering one. I've definitely had people trigger including past me. Yeah.
Adina: 52:18
It's it's, I'm not saying everyone, like maybe some people are finding true enjoyment in that. When you are constantly putting yourself in a situation where you are punishing yourself with intensity, with under eating, if you've even used that language before, like, oh, I was so bad this weekend, I need to go to this spin class or, you know, that type of thing. That's, you're punishing yourself and we need to talk about how we can get you to love on yourself with movement, because that's a big part of being able to be in a relationship, being intimate with somebody else. Right. We need to love on ourselves first. And I know this is a bit of a deep cut and it might be hard to hear. And I am sorry if I didn't present it as gracefully as you may have needed to hear it. But I do think that if this triggered you, like take a moment to examine that, examine your relationship with movement, with exercise. Are you recovering? Are you overdoing it? What is this telling us about your relationships, your relationship to self, how you really feel inside your body and what state of metabolism your body is constantly trying to be in. Again, like if you're putting yourself in that fight or flight state in these high intensity classes over and over and over again, what are you missing? What are you craving?
Diane: 53:42
yeah, it's what need isn't being met. And why are you over-performing or overfunctioning as I think I heard Bernay brown talking about that and this, I mean, what you just said is so important and I know a few years. So I probably would not have been in a space where I could have heard that because I used to describe myself as type a and a perfectionist. I was like, this is a strength, but what that looked like for me was constantly doing whether it was at work, trying to perform harder, better. Yeah. Faster, stronger. Uh, I did like to exercise. I don't know that. Well touch, probably over exercise, always like food, but I would overexercise and say, let's go harder. At my own expense or stay busy. Maybe the overfunctioning was constantly cleaning or constantly staying busy instead of sitting with how I felt or like, what do I really need? And you also said something I wanted to hone in on, which is what's your relationship to self like, because before you can be intimate with someone else or have a satisfying and enriching relationship with someone else, you have to have that with yourself and know how to give that to yourself. So we say it's a lot of love, sometimes tough love here, um, and just, you know, systemically. So, but I hope that if you, are maybe a recovering perfectionist, you're coming around to the idea that you need to slow down, then I hope that you receive that.
Adina: 55:03
Yeah, I hope, I hope you could hear that. Um, yeah, like I think whenever I've presented it in this way, people are so quick to think, like I'm not an adrenaline junkie. It's not like I'm jumping out of helicopters. It's not like I am. Free soloing. You know, it's not like I'm scaling buildings without a harness, but adrenaline is what you are chasing. If you are constantly doing high intensity fitness, if you can never slow down, if you started one of my programs and day one week, one week two, you looked at the rest periods and you were like, what can I do in those two
Diane: 55:43
Can I do burpees in that time. Yeah,
Adina: 55:45
like, can I do AB exercises during those two minutes? What can I do to.
Diane: 55:48
no, bitch sit down and rest.
Adina: 55:51
you can breathe. You can hum to get that vagus nerve stimulated, but that's it like you can watch back your recording from the first set to see what you need to work on for the next set. But no, you cannot do something else. You can not keep moving. And so if this is really hard for you to hear, I do want you to examine that, are you addicted to adrenaline and cortisol? Even if you can't come to the reality that that's, what's going on. If you are not ovulating, if your temps are in the toilet, there's a really good chance that you are running on those stress hormones.
Diane: 56:26
yes. Yeah. That chronic mental and emotional. And on top of that, what kind of stress do you have in your personal life and your relationships? What is your perceived stress? Around what is going on in the world. There's a lot going on there. Right? And for some people, if they've spent a lot of time here, they might acclimate to that high stress as a norm. And so what we're doing and doing here is inviting you to slow down rest. That rest is necessary. It's not a nice to have too often, especially with my driven women and my type a clients. They're like, oh yeah, I'll rest later. It's this moving target just keeps happening. I want for you to treat it like this non negotiable meeting. Like you do everything else on your Google calendar, your zoom schedule, right. Even if you were only starting with like half an hour or so. I imagine you can find that somewhere and demanding jobs with long hours of having no alone time toxic or stressful relationships, avoiding our emotions, those all add to our load. And so there's a lot, I'm sure we're going to come back to, as it relates to managing that part of, of stress and how that affects our health. But right now the SparkNotes are rest more nourish, more you deserve.
Adina: 57:44
Yes you do. And this was a particularly challenging year. I mean, I keep saying year, but at this point it's turning into two years.
Diane: 57:51
Yeah.
Adina: 57:52
For finding alone time. And I know, especially I'm talking to moms here too. If you feel like you are just on your last thread and you're listening to this and you're like, how could I possibly slow down? How could I possibly find a lone time? De-stress like, you really need to ask for it and you really need to understand how important this is for your health to carve out some time. Even if it's hiding in your closet, if it's, if there's no option for you to really go somewhere and spend some time alone, or if you have a partner that could take the kids out of the house and give you some space to just like be, and that isn't a time for you to deep clean the entire
Diane: 58:36
or a scroll tick talk for two hours.
Adina: 58:39
Yeah. Like find something that will nourish you emotionally for you to really just spend that time. And I even, I find myself guilty of this sometimes too, where I'm like, okay, I've recently started prioritizing a half-hour walk in the morning. My childcare gets here and I just bolt out the front door to be by myself. And I find myself being like, oh, what lecture can I queue up for school to listen to while I'm walking? Yeah. Sometimes listening to things is nice. You know, if it's a podcast you enjoy, or if it's, if it's us, if you enjoy us, but this is learning and this is practical tips and sometimes like music or being alone with silence yeah. Is, is really what we need. And
Diane: 59:27
Especially if at night you are someone who, okay. I feel fine during the day, but at night when my head hits the pillow and I'm ready to go to bed and all the internet browser tabs open up in your mind and think of all the things or you're thinking about that conversation two weeks ago, chances are you'd benefit from some quiet somewhere with your thoughts.
Adina: 59:47
Yeah. It's so necessary. And we get so little of it these days. So making some time for that, I think can be really, really benefited.
Diane: 59:56
Yeah. Switching gears a little bit. We're still gonna talk about mindset here, but as it relates to actually being in the bedroom, whether that's just with yourself or with your partner, and so. If you feel like that libido is low, it's not adequate or where you'd like it to be some questions to ask and to explore with yourself are how do you feel about you and your body? How can you practice accepting it, where it is, or at least some body neutrality as my friend sex. Dr. Megan stubs talks about this is her forte and her area of expertise. And if you aren't familiar with her highly recommend checking her out, she writes for Playboy Cosmo. She actually just wrote and released her first book called playing without a partner, a singles guide to sex, dating and happiness. So this is great if you are single, but also if you're just trying to enjoy alone time. In and outside the bedroom with yourself. So check out her book, and her articles, she does all kinds of posts on her Instagram and she's a master gardener as well. So you can see that, but highly recommend checking out Dr. Megan stubs, sexologist Megan on Instagram. I'll link her in the show notes. So she talks not only about sex and sexuality, but also relationships and body image. So. She's also one of my besties, but love, love, love everything. She puts out, especially her book.
Adina: 1:01:24
Yeah, that's a really important piece of this too. And we talked a little bit about this with regards to nourishment and using exercise as punishment. If that's a place that you're at, if you are under nourishing chronic dieting, punishing with exercise, there is certainly a deeper look that I recommend taking. In regards to your relationship with your body. If you can not truly provide your body with that nourishment through food, emotional nourishment, using fitness as a tool for strength and empowerment. Instead of beating yourself up, punishing yourself, overloading your body with adrenaline and cortisol. That's certainly a place to start examining. So you can go at this from different angles. You can start reading a book like Megan's book and start exploring that relationship. You can scale back that intensity and start incorporating fitness that makes you feel strong and powerful and see how that makes you feel inside of your own body.
Diane: 1:02:30
I love that reframe. I'm thinking of a meme that I just saw before we hopped on to record. And someone said, my daughter. When to put on jeans and said, oh, my thighs are too powerful for these jeans. And they said, what if everyone thought this way? So little, little reframes instead of I'm fat. Oh, this or that is wrong with me. And they're like, oh, I do powerful. So how can we, at least as if we're not there yet, where we are fully accepting our body, how it looks, how it feels, how can we practice noticing things we do like and things that our body can do that are great.
Adina: 1:03:03
Yes. My thighs are whole way too powerful for my
Diane: 1:03:07
Juicy and powerful.
Adina: 1:03:09
Yeah. So how can we approach fitness in this way in a way. It makes us strong. It makes us better at living our lives. I've had so many clients who come to me, they say like, I know it's not what you do, but I really want to lose some weight, blah, blah, blah. And I say, well, you know, it's not what I do. So let's focus on getting strong and see how you feel. And. I'm not going to talk specifically here about who loses weight, who doesn't lose weight, who loses fat, who doesn't lose fat. Because again, there are so many factors and that's not the focus of my work, but I find even clients that do not reach a body composition, that they were maybe secretly hoping to reach when they did my program. Uh, oftentimes they just feel so much better in their skin because they have that muscle, they feel so powerful.
Diane: 1:04:03
they're sleeping better. They're not hungry.
Adina: 1:04:06
Maybe their fertility came back like priorities shift. When you shift the focus of your fitness. And again, focusing on fitness that warms you up. If you start taking your temperature and you notice that your temperatures are plummeting from those bootcamp classes, and then maybe you start to see like, oh wait, my body temperature is rising. Now that I am focusing on true strength and power training. That is a really, really good marker and a nice piece of encouragement that can move you more in the direction of fitness that is actually supporting your health.
Diane: 1:04:44
Yes, ma'am and I know I I've been loving strength training for happy hormones when you're listened to those chances, are the doors have slammed shut on self-paced but stay tuned because I know this is one of the Adina's signature programs. And gosh, even though I have done have lifted. But allows me to say lifted myself. I've literally lifted myself, pull hugs, but done lifting by myself the last few years or with an a coach in person. I'm always learning new things and feel so good when I'm recovering from those workouts. Now, before we move into and finish out with practical tips for getting hotter and hornier, we'd be remiss if we didn't talk about how. You can strengthen your libido, but with your partner, if you are partnered. So outside of the bedroom communication, that is key. So again, we touched on this earlier. Are you happy? How do you pour into each other before the actual physical intimacy are your other needs being met? If there are not, chances are, you're not going to feel as connected and hot and ready, right. I'm thinking of little Caesars. Is that okay? Everything's always, I think it's hot right there. Like, is it good pizza? They're like, it's hot and it's ready.
Adina: 1:05:58
Yeah. Are you hot and ready
Diane: 1:06:00
Yeah. I think I've heard of the book, but this book, but perhaps not the five love languages by Gary Chapman. I know there is a free little quizzy that you can do online if you're not sure what yours are. I think this is awesome. Uh, partners to do together and just discover how they operate, what they need and what their partner needs so that they can. Give each other more of that in root cause. Reset. We have an Enneagram class, which is, it goes a little deeper to understanding your personality type, your motivation, your fears, how you communicate and operate. So that's a super fun class for women who are in that program,
Adina: 1:06:39
if you've had, okay, so maybe this is the first, this time you're hearing this, like all this stuff we're mentioning about the way that your stress impacts your body temperatures and your libido and why that's important, but think back, like, I'm sure that everyone has had an experience where maybe their partner was into it. And they were like, you know what, actually, I'm really stressed out right now. I'm not in the mood. And if you have said that sentence, Maybe this can help you make that connection and recognizing that like stress really can shut down. Our ability to connect with our partner, our craving for sex and just overall intimacy. Self-love like we get so distracted by stress, both mentally, emotionally, and physiologically. And so taking the time to really find that connection, even when we are stressed, because like we talked about earlier and like, we'll talk about in practical tips, orgasm can actually help to lower stress. So if you. Are very quick to just say, oh, I'm stressed. I can't, maybe some of these resources can help you find some availability for finding that intimacy because connecting with your partner and having sex, can actually help to lower that stress load as well and contribute to getting you hot and
Diane: 1:08:00
yes. Getting into your body more. Um, so I mentioned Meg sexologists, Megan on Instagram. Also my friend, Erica, Eric has confidence co I think is her tag, but she has, um, a membership where you could, there are dance classes. She does in the membership, the vortex with gala darling that I have, she has someone doing like. Classes and you tune in and zoom and people have their camera off, uh, but helps you get into your body and just practice more play and move and to relax. And all of that will carry over into intimacy with yourself or with a partner,
Adina: 1:08:39
I can see that going south really quickly.
Diane: 1:08:41
what on zoom
Adina: 1:08:42
yeah.
Diane: 1:08:44
She makes a safe space.
Adina: 1:08:46
another resource, that I wanted to mention is Vanessa Marin therapy on Instagram. Um, it's a couple of Vanessa and Zander. She's a sex therapist and. Their content is excellent. They have a lot of really great resources as well, particularly, one product of theirs is called finishing school, which just hats off for an incredible title, but it is all about discovering female orgasm. And if you've never learned how to orgasm or it's not something that you use. Been able to achieve, uh, this is a really, really great resource to tap into that as well. And again, like we mentioned, can be such a useful tool in increasing metabolic health and just increasing overall intimacy self-love, um, relationship with your partner as
Diane: 1:09:31
orgasm is self-care. That is the message here, but there are physiological Benes too, as we were chatting about. Now, let's talk and finish this out with some practical tips for getting hotter and hornier a reminder. This has been a theme in past episodes. You probably don't need that. Go back to our period myth, tested myth testing, our period myth-busting episode, where I know we talked about precursors or, um, prerequisites that we like to see before either of us order Dutch tests or cycling hormone labs, or, oh my gosh, adrenal labs. They're like, there's a panel that I, we have access to that Adina and I have access to, and we use with our one-on-one clients for adrenal hormones. It's like 500 bucks. Um, and it's going to validate you are.
Adina: 1:10:19
that you're stressed.
Diane: 1:10:21
your stress.
Adina: 1:10:22
right. It's like, do you need a Dutch test or do you just need to orgasm more and stop taking hiit
Diane: 1:10:28
Do you need a Dutch test or do you need to eat more and relax and sleep? Yeah.
Adina: 1:10:33
Wait, we should do one of those. That real it's going viral right now.
Diane: 1:10:37
Yeah. Do you need a lab test or need eat more?
Adina: 1:10:40
Yeah.
Diane: 1:10:41
Uh,
Adina: 1:10:43
Don't take it. Nobody take it. We're going to do
Diane: 1:10:45
Yeah. Another recap start tracking your temp to see where you're at. As you're making changes as you're nourishing yourself. We want to see that upwards trend working towards like 98 and a half.
Adina: 1:10:57
Yeah. And if you're far from that, don't be discouraged. Like this can really take time. One note about temperatures is that. It's only one data point and it can, it can be super, super helpful, but there are other things that can increase your temperature as well. So I think this is kind of outside of the scope of this conversation, but I can't really mention temperatures without mentioning pulse. And so. Your temperature can increase from stress hormones. So if you're a person who really resonated with this entire episode and you're like, yeah, they're right. I'm super stressed out and I'm not connecting with my partner and I'm not in touch with my own body. And my metabolism feels like it's suppressed for a million other reasons, but your temperatures are high. I would encourage you to also take your pulse and try to just like. Corroborate that data.
Diane: 1:11:53
get more markers in there. Yes.
Adina: 1:11:55
Yeah. But like we said, at the beginning of this episode, you, I mean, like we just said, you probably don't need lab tests right away. Start taking your temperature. That is a great way to at home. Start to learn more about your body.
Diane: 1:12:09
yes. Ma'am. And I wonder if there was someone who opened this episode, thinking we're going to talk about aphrodisiacs and other things to up your libido which yeah. Those can help, you know, things like oysters, dark chocolate pineapple, but.
Adina: 1:12:23
Wait, I note about pineapple. Did I tell you this?
Diane: 1:12:26
Are you going to talk about how it changes the taste of seaman?
Adina: 1:12:30
no, that's not what I
Diane: 1:12:32
Because that's what I hear. I was like, I don't think we're going that explicit on this episode.
Adina: 1:12:37
but now we have,
Diane: 1:12:40
Okay.
Adina: 1:12:41
Diane's like cut that out and I'm like, I think I might keep it
Diane: 1:12:43
I'm an adult who at the 12 year old sense of humor is that 12th. That's too young for them.
Adina: 1:12:50
I don't know if we, I don't know if we mentioned this on the show. I mean, it's getting younger and younger every day. Have you seen Tik TOK?
Diane: 1:12:57
both dances.
Adina: 1:12:58
talkin. All right. So I don't know if we mentioned this on the show, but I had COVID a while ago and had no symptoms. Like it was literally just a little cold Dani pretty sick. He kind of like, it was like a flu for him. He was in bed fever,
Diane: 1:13:16
he had the man's version of.
Adina: 1:13:18
Yeah, the man version. But I didn't really know I had COVID until I lost my smell and I'm totally fine. Except this is a long, this was months ago. I'm totally fine. Except that pineapple. Red wine and strawberries, all smell and taste disgusting, and they all smell and taste the same.
Diane: 1:13:42
the same. Ooh. Okay. Describe the tasting notes, which by the way, I have heard from several of my clients who had COVID and their taste or smell was affected that red wine was nasty
Adina: 1:13:53
Yeah, red wines, our friend Kim also can't do red wine, I think. Um, but she said white wine works for her, but I can't do any wine. I like maybe it's the alcohol cause like overripe fruit kind of has that alcoholic
Diane: 1:14:05
element.
Adina: 1:14:06
And I. noticed that some hand soaps, like people have like antibacterial fragrance-free hand soaps and they kind of smell like it also total tangent,
Diane: 1:14:16
Wait, so pineapple, that is not aphrodisiac for you. You just don't don't like it. Yeah, those definitely. I mean, those can help for some folks, but more than that and honing in on, oh, I got to get this specific food to get hot and horny. We advocate for an anti-inflammatory diet and. Eating enough, so of nutrient dense food. So that's the, the basic, that's what
Adina: 1:14:44
Yes, that's the magic secret. That's the magic secret for how to warm your body up and get that libido going is tell your body you're safe with food and movement. We've been saying it from the very beginning, but it's that simple. Eat enough foods that you can easily digest and absorb that your body can recognize as food that your body can use those nutrients to create energy and to warm you up. And like we said, a great tool is take your temperature. If you take your temperature after a meal and your temperature plummeted, your body is not utilizing that food well for energy. If your temperature rises, your body is creating. Energy out of that food and using that nutrition and same goes for exercise. Like your fitness. Sometimes your temperature might drop a little bit after fitness because you're in that recovery phase. It is a stressor on the body, but a day after the day after two days after you want to see those temperatures coming back up, because that is your body telling you, you are recovering well. And we're in this techie age now where there's. Fancy tools for all of this, like the aura ring, um, you know, a whoop
Diane: 1:15:58
I think the names are so funny.
Adina: 1:16:00
I know you can get
Diane: 1:16:01
Wait, was it whoop like a social media platform that Tom Haverford came up with?
Adina: 1:16:06
No, that was, um, woof.
Diane: 1:16:09
Yes.
Adina: 1:16:10
at Wolf. Oh man. That's funny. Good, good. I was also thinking of, um, Ryan from the office. What's his
Diane: 1:16:19
Yeah. I think it
Adina: 1:16:19
It also has a silly.
Diane: 1:16:20
and it was like texting you and then I faxed you in like Wolf you,
Adina: 1:16:24
Yeah.
Diane: 1:16:25
something like that to go back.
Adina: 1:16:27
We gotta brush it up. We got brush it up. All right. Anyways. So yeah, there are those recovery tools are super cool. I don't think they're necessary, but if you have one start to pay attention, if your body is telling you, you are not recovered, don't overdo it with the fitness and focus on deep nourishment. But again, you don't need fancy tools. A $10 basal body thermometer from the drug store can give you so much information about your beautiful body.
Diane: 1:16:54
Yes. Ma'am well with that, we hope that you have a hot horn and girl, summer and fall and winter and spring.
Adina: 1:17:04
Oh, right. Let's get it on.
Diane: 1:17:08
We love you. Bye.
